How To Act On Inspiration Without Overthinking

We start with a calm early summer morning and land on a hard truth: fear makes everyday choices feel like life-or-death. We explore how inspiration shows up naturally, how judgment cuts it off, and how to return to self-trust by focusing on what we want next.
• why we suffer over decisions and choices
• the fear stack behind indecision: wrong, judged, stupid, unloved
• why “right” and “wrong” often mean pleasing others
• inspiration as relaxed creative mind and source mind
• why we cannot force inspiration but can remove fear
• how boredom, phones, and FOMO feed choice paralysis
• how family patterns and culture train us to critique and avoid risk
• the conductor mindset: create forward, ignore the crowd behind you
• how monetizing everything turns joy into pressure and quitting
• “what do I want right now?” as a practical prompt for inspired action

Transcript

Morning Scene And Small Talk

SPEAKER_06 0:10

We are on the line.

SPEAKER_02 0:13

The sun is bright, the sky is clear, the bullfrog is howling. Croking, noising. I don't like croaking. It sounds like he's passing on.

SPEAKER_06 0:29

Transitioning.

SPEAKER_02 0:33

Take him a long time to transition. Keeps making that noise. No, it's nice. The birds are singing. It is cool, early summer morning. Doesn't get better. Flowers are out, bugs everywhere. The whole world has come alive. And I have no fear of snow.

SPEAKER_05 1:00

None.

SPEAKER_02 1:01

Doesn't mean it's impossible, just means I don't have any fear of it right now.

Why Decisions Feel So Heavy

SPEAKER_06 1:09

So today we are going to chat about inspiration.

SPEAKER_02 1:18

Not really inspired, but decisions made from inspiration.

SPEAKER_06 1:29

The idea that we suffer over decisions. I was like, not if I can grill you first. Or no, he said that. I think it's pretty normal. We all suffer from decisions.

SPEAKER_02 1:55

Choices. Choices. Decisions.

SPEAKER_06 2:00

And uh, you know, I wrote, why why do we suffer over decisions? Or why we don't act on inspiration, usually. I wrote down it might be wrong. I might be judged. It's stupid. Someone might say something that makes me feel bad or make me feel unloved.

SPEAKER_02 2:24

All different kinds of fear.

SPEAKER_06 2:26

Yeah. I think the one that jumps out at me the most, I don't think it's the one I suffer from the most, but it jumps out at me the most right now is it might be wrong. My decision might be wrong. Why would a decision be wrong? Less.

SPEAKER_04 2:45

Why would not following, what do you mean?

SPEAKER_06 2:58

We haven't even taken the mushrooms yet. I think you know it might be wrong thinks is is the idea that there could be a wrong decision. But I think if you look back at your life, the wrongness comes from oh in the chat, judgment, right? We create in our minds against the decision. And I suppose judgment comes from whether we s view the decision as working out for us or not working out for us.

SPEAKER_02 3:36

Fear and judgment. So I think it's staring at me in the chat.

SPEAKER_06 3:47

I think right and wrong are based on appeasing others. Yep, absolutely. I think sometimes we make decisions based on what others might, what others might think is right or wrong. So, you know, what I'm getting at here is why we don't act on things. It might be wrong, it might be we might be judged, it's you know, it's stupid, someone might say something that makes me feel bad. I think those are just unhelpful patterns and thoughts that get in the way of what might be something wonderful that turns out. It might not right away turn out, but you know, after a while it could come to fruition, inspired action, let's say. You know, we started off with decisions, you know, suffering over decisions. Now, decisions have to come from somewhere. So, where did the decision originate? Did it originate in fear, or was it a random thought, or was it excitement? You thought of something and got excited, had joy around it. In the chat, inspired ideas or thoughts can take us into new areas or new ways of thinking or seeing things, and that we can and that can make us question ourselves and if it's okay to go in that new direction.

Where Inspiration Comes From

SPEAKER_02 5:20

I'm feeling like I have much to offer here. Why does inspiration matter?

SPEAKER_06 5:26

I think in the chat not feeling inspired. Yeah, yeah. I think inspiration matters because the inspired thoughts. So I'm I'm in my mind looking back on things I've seen, my life, other people's lives, when they comment about inspiration. It seems like the inspired thoughts are the ones that really have an impact on our life when they are acted on. When I think back in my life, I think there's so many little times where when I look back, I can think if I hadn't have done that little thing or made that little decision that was so random, it's like it dropped out of the sky, and then I did it, it it changed the whole trajectory of my life. I just think they're important. I think that's why inspiration, I want to talk about inspiration is because it's important. I think I, in my opinion, inspiration is like the universe acting through us. And when inspiration gets cut off by fear and uh you know, judgment, feeling judged, or judging ourselves, or stopping it from happening.

SPEAKER_02 6:55

Is that what stops inspiration? Like where does inspiration come from?

SPEAKER_06 7:00

I think it's our creative mind. I think it's our source mind. I think it's our I think it's those thoughts you have when you wake up in the middle of the night, you know, or early in the morning where you're or throughout the day. Well, I think that you're more relaxed, you're not you're not criticizing yourself or critical of things that you're thinking.

SPEAKER_02 7:29

Why do we want inspiration? I feel like this morning, part of why I'm sort of sitting here frozen is we're talking about a solution without a problem. Do you get me? Like insp inspiration is nice. Inspiration is is lovely. Being inspired is uplifting and positive. Uh, being inspired and following through on the inspiration is very fulfilling. But inspiration, I think for a lot of people, is just a random event, right? And so the real question that to me is not so much what's the value of inspiration, but where does it come from and how do we get it? Right? Like, like so you talked about decisions, and I think that's one of those linguistic things that are different about us. You talk about decisions, I talk about choices. I think that when we when we think about these things, like moments of decision and indecision, our inability to make a decision. Yeah, what what does it mean to you to decide? What does that word mean to you?

SPEAKER_06 8:46

I I guess choose yes, choosing one over the other, or run one from many, or you know. But I think the problem going back to what the problem is, is the the judgment of the inspiration or choice.

unknown 9:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 9:05

I think I think choice and decisions are a little different than inspiration. I think inspiration, I feel like it sort of drops out of the sky. Choices and decisions are I don't know what it's more of a feeling. It almost feels like that's where you get to once you've thought about it and you've molded over and you're now looking at more options. And I don't know. But I do think that choice, decision and choice is be you know, you're you're choosing one over the other, or one for many.

SPEAKER_02 9:47

Yeah, I don't think there's a like what are other words for choice and decision?

SPEAKER_06 9:53

Not sure. Do you know? Do you know other words?

SPEAKER_02 9:56

Discernment, evaluation, assessment, analysis. These are all more about the process of coming to a conclusion. I think it's valuable to see how your mind works. I think there's a lot of value there. I think to I think we all love inspiration, but I it's not easily manufactured.

SPEAKER_06 10:19

So how do we inspiration it should be manufactured?

SPEAKER_02 10:28

Well, I guess what I'm getting at is, you know, if I say to you, your best decisions are inspired decisions, and you agree, because that's what you said earlier, right? The ones that are life-changing you talked about.

SPEAKER_06 10:46

Yeah, throughout my life, I I can see, I'm sure I've had many inspired ideas and not acted on them. But when I look back, I think, well, if I didn't just do that really randomly, my my life would look very different.

SPEAKER_02 11:03

But I think that if we're saying that inspired decisions are better decisions, is that what we're saying? Is that our premise?

SPEAKER_06 11:12

I don't think that they're better. I don't think that's a good word for that.

SPEAKER_02 11:18

Um why does inspiration matter?

SPEAKER_06 11:21

I think inspiration matters because personally I feel like it connects us with something greater and it helps us live our life with more joy.

SPEAKER_02 11:37

So if that's why I should try to make inspired decisions, where do I find inspiration? You know what I mean? I'm I'm always trying to think about the problem people are facing.

SPEAKER_06 11:49

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 11:50

Every day we're doing a podcast, and everybody's out there living their lives, and I'm hoping that we're gonna do a podcast that's helpful.

SPEAKER_06 11:58

Yeah. So I think inspiration comes when there is a lack of fear.

SPEAKER_02 12:04

I agree with that. I think choices made out of fear lead to more fear, decisions made out of fear. What we fear we judge, what we fear we hate. These are sort of natural mind movements. So we could fear making a decision. Yeah, that happens a lot. You know, I'm a master, procrastinator. I think you know, understanding the way we make choices, the way we make decisions, I think is valuable. This topic is now expanding for me because it's starting to come together. But I think what we need to be talking about right now is making decisions and why they're hard. And then we'll figure out that inspiration is the answer to that. But then it's like, well, how do I create inspiration? Like if inspiration is the way I should be making decisions, making choices. You know, this is this is this is interesting because

Choice Paralysis And FOMO

SPEAKER_02 13:16

I'm seeing it. I've been doing a lot of thinking on boredom and the way we tumble into our phones or other addictions as a as a means of dealing with our inability to even decide what to do. Right? That old joke about, you know, and you've watched me do it. I could spend a whole evening watching trailers on Netflix and never pick something to watch. What is it about making choices that's so darn hard?

SPEAKER_06 13:52

I don't know. I might just be jumping really quickly to something, but I I do believe that it's the fear of being wrong. And I think the fear of being wrong has a huge scale, right? Like even just the slightest, oh, I don't like this movie. Yeah, why did I choose this?

SPEAKER_02 14:14

To I don't uh something like way more uh picked the wrong job, picked the wrong career, I've picked the wrong program in university. Yeah, I've picked the wrong spouse. Is that what you're thinking right now? I picked the wrong person to do a podcast with.

SPEAKER_04 14:33

No.

SPEAKER_02 14:34

No, no.

unknown 14:37

Silly.

SPEAKER_06 14:38

Yeah, but I think it's I think it's in the chat is FOMO, fear of missing out.

SPEAKER_02 14:43

Fear, fear, fear. Fear of missing out, I think that's that's another interesting one. I mean, we just to step back and realize how much fear is our motivation.

SPEAKER_04 14:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 14:59

And fear can be our motivation to do a whole bunch of things we never wanted to do, like fear of missing out. Like, I want to be there too. I want one of those. Give me some too. And I used to play that game with my kids. I'd put a lot of broccoli on my plate. Like, oh, this is so good. And then I'd I'd take out some cheese sauce and I'd make cheese sauce and oh. The kids would say, Can I have some cheese sauce? I said, Oh, it only tastes good on broccoli. That's funny. Fear of missing out. Because yeah, like fear is is the driving force, and it's why do we find it so hard to make decisions, to dive into something, to take a chance on something? I think, you know, I think that again, uh, sometimes I feel like I'm picking on parents, but that's not the truth. The truth is, is our parents pass on to us so many thought forms and thought patterns.

How Fear Gets Programmed In

SPEAKER_02 16:06

Right. Sometimes I think that what we call genetics is really just meme delivery. We can say, oh, there's a lot of this runs in that family, or a lot of that runs in that family, you know. And I think that I think it's much more like thought patterns, you know. Epigenetics suggests that the way you use your mind, what you think of the environment around you, can shape the way your genetics are expressed and re-expressed genetics. And I think it's really easy then to say, well, depression runs in that family, or addictions run in that family. But I think it's important just to see that our thought processes are given to us, and if we are in an environment where decisions get made out of fear, and the primary the primary method of making those decisions is the avoidance of tragedy, yeah. Or the another way of saying it, the avoidance of risk. Don't do things that are risky, it might turn out wrong. Here's all the things that could go wrong with that. We can become really, really good at critiquing ideas. I mean, it's almost like we we have an industry of it, right? When you think of it, you we have film critics and food critics and restaurant critics and and all these people out there who are quick and able to tell you all the things that are wrong with stuff. And then we it's amazing how the guy I love baseball. And baseball's a great sport because you don't have to be an athlete to play it. In fact, you can be a big round or a little round, otherwise unathletic human being and be really good at baseball and become a baseball star. And that's beautiful because it's so inclusive. And then you get people who are baseball aficionados, baseball experts. But so many of the people who are on TV telling us what this player did right or that player did wrong couldn't swing a bat if their life depended on it, couldn't throw a ball more than 10 feet if their life depended on it, right? And I think about how we have a whole culture built around the ability to find problems with things. I mean, we have a whole industry of insurance, right? And insurance is a bunch of mathematicians who understand the probability of something bad happening. Right? They can tell you to the day, right, how long this person of this gender with this background and this lifestyle are gonna live.

SPEAKER_05 19:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:25

And then they can from there put a price on the insurance that you've got to pay so that the insurance company makes money on your life insurance. They can tell you to the sixth decimal place what the chances are that your house will catch fire.

SPEAKER_00 19:44

God.

SPEAKER_02 19:45

Right? The point I'm trying to make is that we have a whole we have a whole world built around people having the ability to tell us why somebody else made a bad choice, why somebody else is at risk, why somebody else, why this is a bad decision. I mean, we're really, really good at finding the problems with everything.

SPEAKER_05 20:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:10

And that would paralyze anybody.

SPEAKER_05 20:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:13

He sits here with his hand up in the air. I I paralyze myself all the time. I have a phrase that I love. I used to say, damn lawyers, because everything is about somebody getting sued. Right? Everybody's afraid of getting sued for something. Half the things we do. I mean, think about it this way: everything that has a protocol, everything that has a policy, everything that has a system was built out of fear. And probably the fear that some lawyer is gonna sue them.

SPEAKER_06 20:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:53

We make most of our choices out of fear. This is the problem. Finally, I found the problem, teacher. Great idea of inspiration.

SPEAKER_00 21:02

Well, good.

SPEAKER_02 21:04

It was just a matter of time because you know what? I'm like everybody else, I'm really good at finding the problem. I'm a lawyer. I've been trained to find problems. I mean, every time I can find a new problem, I can add six more paragraphs to a contract that I'm writing. Pretty soon the contract is 50 pages long.

SPEAKER_06 21:27

Is that then you don't want people to read it?

SPEAKER_02 21:33

What I don't want is for something to happen and have the client say, Did you think of that? And not be able to say, Yes, I thought that.

SPEAKER_05 21:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 21:42

That's in paragraph 47b, subsection E.

SPEAKER_00 21:50

We we we have a whole society built around critics and problem finders.

SPEAKER_06 22:00

And so why do these little decisions in our life cause so much turmoil?

SPEAKER_02 22:08

Because we're in the habit of trying to think about what could go wrong instead of thinking about what could go right. We used to always have a joke, you know, we used to teach entrepreneurship, and we used to say smart people will never get rich. Smart people will never get rich because they can find the problems with every idea. That it takes a certain amount of obliviousness that says, Well, I don't know what could go wrong, but this could go right. And they just charge ahead.

SPEAKER_03 22:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:37

And they just they just do what needs to be done next. And those are the people who get rich. Other people are standing around them in a circle telling them all the things they're doing wrong. Other people are standing around them in a circle telling them all the things that might go wrong. Other people are standing in a circle all around them, telling them how crazy they are to take this chance. And they just say, ah, whatever, and they just keep going. And then they're rich. And they've got this idea that seems so obvious in hindsight.

Be The Conductor Not The Critic

SPEAKER_06 23:08

I think yeah, I'm I'm trying this out recently, where I just I I don't know, I just love this phrase. I didn't come up with it. I don't know who did, but it's it's a really silly phrase. But it's delulu is the Sululu. Okay. So the idea of it is like delusional. Being delusional is the solution. And you know, I I think I think also I I saw someone else talking about this sort of thing this morning. Because of course my feed is just full of inspiration. People just talking inspiration, which is which is nice. But they were talking about like being what when you're when you're going down a road of I'm just gonna say inspiration, let's say, you haven't judged it too much, and you want to dive into it, whatever it is, the decision, is the idea, the the metaphor analogy, I don't know, but the idea of being a conductor of it. So imagine a conductor, they are turned towards what they are creating. I'm talking about like a conductor of uh music, and they are turned away from the people, and it's this kind of really interesting way of looking at it, like you're just interested in what you're creating, and you're not worried about who's behind you. Does that make sense in a way?

SPEAKER_04 24:46

For sure.

SPEAKER_06 24:47

So I tried this on Friday. I've been trying this over the last few days, of just trying to do uh whatever comes to my mind inspir like inspiration, I guess, and not worrying if I'm gonna look like a maniac or delusional. Like on TikTok. I'll just give you an example. Oh my god. I changed so I'll give you context. Someone on TikTok a couple years ago, their hypnotist, and they would take you through a little mini hypnosis session, right? In their reels. And they called themselves, like their name on their profile was your TikTok hypnotist. And I was like, what the heck? Like, how dare you? You can't be TikTok's hypnotist. I'm a hypnotist too. Blah, blah, blah. In my mind, right? I would never say it out loud to anybody. But I judged, I judge, judge, judge them. But the reason why I judged them, I think, was out of fear that I couldn't do that, that I felt scared to do that, that I felt scared to put myself out there as something like that. So I went on Friday and I changed my name to your galactic hypnotist. Just to be like as far out of the field as possible. So anyway, I'm just trying to, I'm, I'm trying to make it fun, you know. And I know I'm I'm talking about TikTok and here I am judging, like I'm judging my own TikTok. It's hilarious. But like Well I think you're proving the point. Uh well, I I guess what I'm getting at is like I'm done being I'm done being afraid, and and I I just I want to take up more space and not be scared of what other people are going to say. And so, you know, I started to share things that would come to me. You know, I would get off of TikTok many times. So I would I would be on TikTok and then I wouldn't touch it for months and months and months. And the reason I wouldn't touch it, and I think this ties back into what we're talking about here. The reason I wouldn't touch it for months and months and months because is because my brain pattern I noticed would start be like to be like, oh, is this good content? Oh, would this be good to tell on TikTok? Oh, would this be good? Like, would that be good? And everything in my mind turned into like what would be good content, right? What what would give me a good enough real video to get my next client? And so it became all about fear, all about like where where's the next client coming from? And I would just get so fed up with my mind looking at everything as content that I would just say, ah, to hell with it, right? So what I'm trying this time is is not even thinking about it. And when I have an inspired moment of, oh, you know what, I'm just gonna talk about this or I'm gonna share this, then I do it and it's over with. And I haven't thought about it, I haven't pulled it apart, I haven't worried about it, I haven't cared, and it's working out so far. So I post it and I I never look back. I know that's a really simple like example of what we're talking about, but I I do think it it runs through many different things that we do.

SPEAKER_02 28:44

Well, I think we're we're talking now about a problem that everybody has. That's what I mean when I say, you know, how do you manufacture inspiration? The real question is how do you avoid all the fear that interferes with your ability to just act on your inspiration?

SPEAKER_03 29:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 29:04

It seems that the problem isn't that we're not inspired, the problem is much more that we're very, very good at criticism. We're very, very good at trying to anticipate and discover problems, and that we get to the point where most of our behavior is really being driven by the avoidance of problems.

SPEAKER_06 29:31

Yeah. So I suppose I would ask the you know, people listening, you know, what what are the things that you pull apart and you know, you might have had a moment of inspiration, but then and then you feel really excited about it, but then the dreaded, like, well, let's break this down into many different components and and and judge and and pull apart each each component and see, you know, what could go wrong with this.

SPEAKER_02 30:07

Well, I think that there's the tendency to try to find flaws, and there is the fear that drives that.

SPEAKER_06 30:17

In the chat, there is honestly, I am inspired daily, but have only acted on a handful of things in my life. Judgment of others is always encapsulated what stops me, or lack of balance, a lack of money, totally.

SPEAKER_01 30:36

Is that the thing we fear the most, others' judgment?

SPEAKER_02 30:40

Is that the thing that we yearn for when we act on inspiration that others will judge is worthwhile? Is that the reward? Is that the fear and the reward? Is the problem then that we're living outside ourselves? We're afraid of others condemning us, we're also yearning for others to praise us. And so now we're living our life for others, honoring those silly little rules, silly human rules, seeking approval.

SPEAKER_06 31:09

In the chat, yep, yep, yep. Acceptance, praise, acceptance. Yeah, I I think so.

SPEAKER_02 31:15

I think um there's your conductor, right? You know, I think about the times in my life when my creativity was on fire. And at the time, there was nothing more important than the thing that I was creating. Yeah, I remember times getting in trouble from my mother when I was first really getting into playing the guitar. My mother would come in and say, We're having dinner. Put the guitar down and come and have dinner, and I would be in the middle of something and I was creating. And, you know, I think of it now, and I think, well, what what was I creating? Was it really any good? Right? And that's not the question, I think. The question isn't, would others think what I'm creating is good? The question is, am I driven to create this? And sometimes when we create, you know, it takes a number of attempts, you know. And I think of some of the great painters who painted, you know, 50 versions of the same painting to finally get to the painting they wanted. Or writers who write three and four and five drafts, dramatically different than the the final, so different from the the last, to stay with an idea like that, to keep trying to make it better. You know, I I one of my favorite things to do is to some musicians out there will give you now like versions of songs that they as they were creating them, right? What the lyrics were. Like we were watching, I was watching the the Beatle movie, that six-hour friggin' Beatle movie. But watching them create a song to see where it starts and to see where it goes, and to see all the different kinds of lyrics that the Beatles created and threw away to finally get to the ones that we know off the top of our head that we have memorized because we've listened to these songs so many times, but to hear how many twists and changes were involved in finally getting to the version of the song. And the version of this song, we think, oh, I'm so inspired because it means so much, and to find out that it didn't mean diddly squat to them. To them, it was did it rhyme? Can we make this rhyme? Can it fit the meter of the song? Right? How do we add or take away some syllables to get it in the song? And we're like, oh, this is poetry and it's inspiring my life, but they're like just working and they're staying focused on the thing. And I guess what we admire more than anything else is the lack of fear.

SPEAKER_04 34:18

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 34:19

That they're not thinking that this thing that I'm making right now has to be the thing, yeah, and it has to make me the TikTok personality of the century. It has to make me a million dollars, it has to make me famous, it has to be the best thing ever. Even when, yeah, we have such a huge capacity to figure out what could go wrong.

SPEAKER_06 34:52

Do

When Creativity Turns Into A Product

SPEAKER_06 34:53

you think that comes from like monetizing everything?

SPEAKER_02 34:56

I think that has a lot to do with it. That we think of things, you know. Oliver Wendell Holmes has us uh had us a quote that has stuck with me all of my life. I think I read it when I was like in my early 20s. The value of any idea comes from its ability to make its place in the marketplace. That's a paraphrase, but the point is that that's that's the thing, right? I'm sitting here coming to this conclusion, and I know it sounds crazy, but I just watched a fish jump out of the water twice. And I'm just staring off in the distance, thinking, and this fish just jumps up right in my view, drops back in the water, and I go, wow, and then it jumps up and drops back in the water again. We spend so much time trying to turn things into money, and that's our alternative to being afraid that everything we do is not good enough, or could even be the wrong thing. And these are just mental habits. This is just the way we've been raised. Like there was a time when I used to think that one of the most fun things to do was to come up with business ideas. And I'd gotten so quick at being able to do the math in my head and say, okay, this is a good idea, this is a bad idea, right? But all that does is just enforce all of that way of thinking. What's wrong with the idea, and can it make money? The two mental habits, the two thought forms that keep us from really acting in our inspiration.

SPEAKER_06 36:51

Yeah, yeah. I know that there's been a lot of things over my life from early 20s to even now, where I start doing something, and then someone says, Oh, you could make money at that. And then I'm like, Oh yeah. And so then I create a website or Etsy shop, like I've got a bazillion Etsy shops, and um, and then I I don't sell it in a day, so then I give up on it, the whole thing. So I enjoyed the process, and then I was I don't want to say pushed, because I I decided to try to make money from it, and then because it didn't sell within 24 hours, that means I'm a failure, and just give it up.

SPEAKER_02 37:42

Well, that wasn't the million idea million dollar idea. Yeah, that was obviously a mistake. I'm moving on to the next thing, yeah. But there's beauty in the creation, yeah. There's beauty in the process of creation, there's there's joy in the following of inspiration. I think that's why we admire it. Because it seems to it seems to avoid the fear. But I think we found the problem.

SPEAKER_04 38:12

What's that?

SPEAKER_02 38:12

It's the same problem as everything. We're just programmed a certain way. Everything we talk about that has any value comes back to we're programmed. I mean, and as hypnotists, that's

Fears Rarely Happen And You Survive

SPEAKER_02 38:23

what we do, right? We try to find the program. We try to find the program, the limiting belief, the past experience, regress to the past life, right? Find the thing that has created the immovable fear, the fear that can't be overcome, and then resolve it.

SPEAKER_06 38:45

Just stop it.

SPEAKER_02 38:47

Well, the thing of it is, is I think what our experience with regression really shows is the vast majority of our fears never happen. And the ones that do, we handle them really well. Even though something bad is going on, and some of us get traumatized by bad things going on. The fact is, here we are today. I'm still standing, I'm still here, right? I got through that. Now, maybe I'm clinging to the experience, right? Maybe I'm locked into that fear, and I need to move through that. But one of the most powerful tools we find when we're helping somebody move through that is here you are, all these years later, still standing, still living, still functioning, right? In spite of that horrific experience, you survived it.

SPEAKER_05 39:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 39:45

And to just allow the strength, the recognition of your strength in that moment. Recognize how powerful you really are that that horrid thing can be overcome and didn't destroy you, did not end you. It might be something you're clinging to, and that's interfering with your ability to move forward.

What Do I Want Right Now

SPEAKER_02 40:11

But you survived it. You're smart enough and good enough to figure out how to get through it.

SPEAKER_06 40:16

Do you think it's ever too late to start something? You're inspired, and we have the thoughts of, oh, I'm too old for this, or um, I've I've got all this other stuff going on.

SPEAKER_02 40:27

I've already established this, I've already spent 10 years on my career. I'm not gonna change it now. I've only got a few years left anyway. I want to spend them sitting, doing nothing. Sound like somebody, you know. If if you define, and this is this is me, because I do this and I've I've said this and I write this. I define living as the act of making choices. This is a thing that I've said, I've written about a hundred times. Life is not measured in time. Life is not lived minute by minute, day by day. It's lived choice by choice, because each choice sends you off on a trajectory that leads you to other choices. And you're not living if you're not making choices. Is it too late? Is too much happened? Am I too invested? Uh yeah, I I would like to think that those are the wrong questions. The question should simply be, what do I want?

SPEAKER_06 41:35

And maybe leading into what came to me the other day, what what do I want right now?

SPEAKER_02 41:41

No. What do I want next? Now what do I want as an outcome?

SPEAKER_06 41:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 41:46

Right? Be the conductor and be focused on making the wonderful music. Be the creator and be focused on your creation, not on the potential outcome of your creation. I mean, this podcast started off really slow and it got it was really kind of bogged down in uh the the way I interpreted it was we had a solution that did not yet have a problem. And it's just not the way I think, because I'm really good at finding problems. And but that's what's useful about that is when you can find the problems that everybody suffers from and then find your way through them. But finding the root of them seems to be what we do as hypnotists.

SPEAKER_06 42:34

I do want to touch on what came to me the other day about what um the what do I want right now idea. I was thinking about the idea that we put out there over the last month or so about what do we want. And I think that's a big question, right? And it kind of reminds me the feeling. I mean, it's a good question to start with, right? Gets the mind moving, gets the the body feeling. But it kind of reminds me of the feeling that you got, you know, in high school at the guidance counselor office, and they're saying, What do you want to do in your life? You have to choose right now, right? You got to choose right now because you got to know where you're going.

SPEAKER_02 43:24

And you're 17 and it's Thursday, and today's the day.

SPEAKER_06 43:29

Exactly. And I think that that question can be really big and really daunting. So I want to, you know, what came to me the other day was just whittling it down to what do I want right now? What do I want right now? What you know, do I want to tea? Do I want to read? Do I want to go for a walk? Do I want, you know? And I think when you ask yourself that question, it can lead to inspired action. It can lead to hopefully releasing fears. It can lead to something that when you look back, you go, oh wow, if I didn't take all those little actions, then maybe this wouldn't have happened. I mean, think about your life, like those moments that you think back to and you think, my God, everything has been leading to this. I didn't know why I was doing this at the time, but now it all makes sense. I'm sure people look back and think that on some areas of their life. But I think a better, maybe not better, but more helpful question is what do I want right now? What do I want right now in this moment?

SPEAKER_02 44:57

I'm just writing down the topic for tomorrow. How do I stop fear from being my primary motivation?

SPEAKER_06 45:04

You just stop it. I'm just kidding.

SPEAKER_02 45:07

It'll be a short podcast then. Oh my god. I guess sometimes podcasts can come from uninspired places.

SPEAKER_06 45:21

Mine was inspired.

SPEAKER_02 45:23

Yes, thank God. Because I was just lost.

SPEAKER_06 45:26

I know. So sometimes you're inspired and I'm lost, and sometimes I'm inspired and you're lost. You just have to go with it.

SPEAKER_02 45:33

You know, it's so often I think that I'm not here to help anybody. I'm here to help myself. And helping others with their stuff just shows me what my stuff is. And when I am busy helping others, then the side effect is I help myself. And yeah, I'm not the podcast expert. I'm Dululu. I'm lost in my own delusions.

SPEAKER_06 46:04

Yeah, but it's the Sululu. All right, everyone.

Final Takeaways And Farewell

SPEAKER_06 46:10

Have a good day. Hopefully that was helpful. And uh, you know, we came around to something.

SPEAKER_02 46:15

So did you discover something in yourself?

SPEAKER_06 46:20

In the chat. Have a wonderful delusional day.

SPEAKER_02 46:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 46:25

All right, thank you. You too. I see you later.

SPEAKER_02 46:30

I wish for you delusions.

SPEAKER_06 46:32

Yes, delusions of grand truth. All right, have a good day. We'll see you later.