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How To Use Gratitude To Calm A Racing Mind: Reimagining The Mind
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We explore gratitude as a skill that calms a racing mind, softens the subconscious alarm, and rewires patterns through focused practice. Stories, research, and tools show how to hold the feeling longer so joy becomes a daily state, not a rare spark.
• release, reframe, reprogram as a simple mental model
• speaking gratitude to the body to crowd out intrusive thoughts
• befriending the subconscious instead of fighting it
• hypnosis and meditation to reach theta and install new patterns
• gratitude as emotion and awareness that removes interference
• where gratitude is felt in the body and why tears signal truth
• journaling prompts and rapid gratitude inventories
• nature, pets, contrast and everyday anchors for presence
• Quint Boa’s four A’s: attention, acknowledgment, appreciation, action
• Joe Dispenza’s research on physiological shifts from gratitude
• making gratitude a verb through daily practice and expression
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SPEAKER_03:And little coffee cake, which makes me particularly grateful.
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SPEAKER_01:Last bought coffee cake yesterday. I just need this this morning to feel grateful too.
SPEAKER_03:Boosts my gratitude.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:And the sun's like almost up.
SPEAKER_00:It's amazing.
SPEAKER_03:There's actual sun, there's blue sky, there's red clouds. So cool.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Coffee. My goodness. I'm surrounded by blessings.
SPEAKER_01:If you guys can hear us okay, can you just do a thumbs up? Sometimes I get an inkling to ask, and I just want to make sure. Perfect. Yeah, so today we're uh delving into uh gratitude. We've been sort of thinking about it off and on since yesterday.
SPEAKER_03:It's a great topic because it's a great thing to think about. If you're gonna use your brain cycles for something, using them for gratitude is a great thing.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.
SPEAKER_03:And when life is confusing and scary. In fact, it's uh probably one of the best answers. You know, uh in hypnosis, we do three things really, most of the time. We release things, release things, let them flow, let them go. We reframe things, we think about them differently, and we reprogram ourselves. We uh we try to change this program that we grew up with, that we were grew up in, through, by, right? And so sometimes once you've released, you've taken those feelings of anxiety and found a way of pushing them out of yourself and don't respect great meditations on on the school about that, then it's a really good thing to fall into, right? Thoughts of gratitude. But we'll talk about it.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, yeah. I think gratitude spans so many areas. You know, I was thinking this morning last night before I fell asleep, I I sent gratitude to my body, I sent gratitude to myself, like all the way down to my cells. And I when I did that, I did something a little different actually. Because sometimes when I'm speaking to my body or imagining, you know, giving gifts to my cells and and loving them. If I leave any room open, if I leave any like space between my words or in my imagination, sometimes negative thoughts can creep in quickly. So I just didn't allow for anything. So it was almost like I was, I don't know, like in a way in my mind, like chanting to my body, like no room for any negativity, just nonstop talking and giving and and the the warmth that suddenly my body felt. I felt like I was bathing in like a hot tub or something. Like it was just this beautiful, like my my cells, if I was to imagine them, it's like they were just so they were just having little parties, like just happy that someone's talking to them. Yeah, and I think we can have so much sway in terms of how our body feels when when we really connect with ourselves like that.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, and I just want to reiterate, you know, like that's that's why we're here, right? There's such simple ways to use your mind, use your thoughts to improve your life rather than having your mind just run away on you. And it's about grabbing some of these techniques and making use of them. And and yeah, I mean, even if it's only for 15 minutes, right? That 15 minutes of positive mental action has such a deep effect on you physically, mentally, emotionally. And it's so much better than spending those 15 minutes in the in the crazy mind-spinning fears and anxieties that we all are subject to. And it's just we we have so many tools right at our disposal within our own ability to think. And and that's you know, so much about what we're trying to do is help people do that. I I also want to point out, you know, like you said, it you can't leave any room. It's amazing the subconscious mind, right? The subconscious mind is really, really trying to protect you, and it often tries to protect you from your own happiness, right? Like, yeah, you're safe in this moment, but what about the next moment, right? And that's that's the subconscious mind saying, I wanna, I wanna keep you safe. And sometimes it's about having a conversation with that subconscious mind and just saying, you know, that this is not keeping me safe. You know, what's what would keep me safe is if you were to keep those complaints and and uh problems to yourself for a while.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:And reminding the subconscious mind that that you're in charge, because remember, you're not you're not your mind, you're the awareness behind your mind. That's why you can control your thoughts, that's why you can observe your thoughts, right? You're not your thoughts. And so being that awareness behind your mind is a valuable exercise. And gratitude is really practicing that. You're really practicing being the awareness behind your mind, and you're retraining that subconscious mind, that reprogramming part of what we do at hypnosis. So remember that, you know, there's a lot of definitions of hypnosis, but for me, I I when I'm working with clients, all I want to do is get their mind in that totally internally focused state. It slows the mind right down to that measurable brain frequency of theta, which is just, you know, it's just slowing the activity of the mind. It's the same as turning off the car engine so that you can work on it, or turning off your computer so you can add a new program. It's just about causing the machine of your mind to slow right down so that you can examine what's in there, because you are not your mind. And you can use your mind for your own purposes and to make your life what you want it to be. That's a big step for a lot of clients, just getting to that place, right? Because the mind is so darned active, right? It's just chaotic sometimes, the way it just runs at us with things and and startles us sometimes with with oh, don't forget about this, and you know, oh, what about that, and look out for this. And our mind is just it gets really scattered and things get really chaotic in there. Anyway, yeah, I just wanted to to to point that stuff out.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I think it's important to start in any way, any small way to become the observer. And chances are you've probably already done it, but maybe didn't observe that you did it. You know, think about those times when your mind is sort of running away on you, but you don't even know. Maybe you're just feeling overwhelmed or or you're going about your day and you think to yourself, how did I get here? Or like, I mean, besides like dimensionally, like, you know, like how did I how did I get to this space in my mind? Or, you know, what have I been thinking about for the last 20 minutes? And that is the beginning to becoming the observer. I mean, you're already the observer, you don't have to become anything, but just noticing that you're you're the observer and that you have that power to be an observer. And you know, I remember people are probably uh sick of me saying this example, but I've said it a few times over the years. When I did a 10-day silent meditation, I just think it's so powerful. So I like to share it. But I did a 10-day silent meditation years ago, and I was sitting there, you know, I'm sort sort of exaggerating, but you know, we're meditating for 10 hours and and you know, into the second hour, let's say I'm focusing. I think I'm focusing. I thought I was focusing, but I had realized that my mind was going off in crazy land, like like darkness and craziness and all over the place. And I thought, wow, how long has this been going on for? Right? Because I just sort of woke up to it in a sense, and I sort of gauged him on maybe it's been gone like that for about 20 minutes, or I don't even know. And then I thought, like, who's in control here? And that was as silly and and small that thought was, it was a change in my mind. It was it was that beginning to trying to understand the mind and and and again becoming the observer, because oftentimes our mind, our subconscious mind, like Les says, just goes off in directions and coming back to the present moment, coming back to oneness and understanding that okay, yes, I have a mind, it can be unruly, but the the act of being present, the act of meditation is catching it and bringing it back to center, catching it and bringing it back to center and become and having that habit. There you go.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, yeah. Like just yeah, like anything, right? When we repeat it, we're practicing it, then we're getting better at it. Um and it's the same to me, it's the same approach with the mind, you know. When I when I figured that out so many years ago, you know, I have this phrase that Hillary hears me say all the time, you know, sorry, I'm busy working on my mind. And it really is my tendency to uh observe my mind, and most of the time be pretty dissatisfied, but but yeah, it's it's just an awareness that that's the thing where unhappiness sits, that's the thing where fear sits, that's the thing where confusion sits. So if that's the thing, that's the thing I need to be working on, that's the place I need to go. And I guess you know that leads us to gratitude, right? Gratitude is an incredible thing for shifting your mind. And again, it's a practice, it's it's something that we're not good at. The subconscious mind is going to move you off of gratitude as quickly as possible. That's important to see, right? Your subconscious mind, at the instant you're like, oh, this is wonderful, your your subconscious mind is saying, okay, let's not get silly here. Let's keep our eyes open. Things can get worse, things are gonna get bad, things used to be bad, things might be better now, but they might get bad again. You need to be prepared, you need to be ready. And don't be don't be spending all your time in some silly bliss. Get back to your attention, pay attention to the world around you. It's a scary place, and you need to protect yourself. And the subconscious mind is gonna pull you out of gratitude quickly, right? Uh and I'll throw this. We have the wonderful benefit of having some some listeners with us this morning, and they were with us yesterday when we said we're gonna do this, and you betcha, you guys, you guys are gonna be part of this. So we want to to include you in some of this. So Hillary's keeping an eye on the chat. Have you had that experience where the instant you start to feel grateful, you fly into fear?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, yeah. Absolutely. When I start to feel grateful, mine is very visual, right? Like a very visual person. And yeah, it's like moments later, I have to really, really, like I said about last night, like there can't be any space in between my thoughts of gratitude or my thoughts of love, because I have like it's almost, it's almost like this dark wispy. I know this is gonna sound like a scary movie thing, but like dark wispiness that starts to creep in in my mind, or things like try to be scary in my mind. And I'm like, where the hell is that coming from? Right. But I need to override it. Or talk to it. Sometimes I talk to it and ask what's going on for you, you know, and in the chat here, yes, and I start ruminating. Yeah, that's yeah, yes, and I start ruminating, absolutely, no, that's really normal, right?
SPEAKER_03:We we we need to be friends with our subconscious mind, and we don't want to see ourselves opposed to our subconscious mind. In fact, our subconscious mind instantly thinks we're trying to change it, is gonna go, well, why? What are you doing? This might not be smart, right? So we we don't want to be engaged in a in uh an argument with our subconscious mind. We just want our subconscious mind to understand that we think the execs the the executive functioner here, the the awareness behind the mind, we think there's there's some other ways to look at it that you need to embrace.
SPEAKER_01:You mean like this the subconscious is telling us we say that again?
SPEAKER_03:Well, just we need to be friends with our subconscious mind so it doesn't resist us all the time.
SPEAKER_01:Yes, okay.
SPEAKER_03:Right? Because it's gonna resist us every time it thinks we're doing something that's dangerous, something that could hurt us, something that can get us into trouble. Even when wonderful things are going on, you know, our subconscious mind is pulling us back. And it's that voice, it's that voice of people who loved us who said, you know, yeah, calm down. You're not all that bag of chips, you know, or you know, don't be arrogant, don't be conceited, you know, don't be you'll be one of those people, right? You know, you're having a good moment, great, just move on, right?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Um, and those are all voices that remain in our head that made their way into our subconscious mind, and our subconscious mind, being totally focused on our safety, embraces those kinds of comments. So when you tell them, subconscious mind that's wrong, subconscious mind said, Oh yeah, we'll see, right? Subconscious mind's gonna resist, subconscious mind's gonna do what it can to get you focused into those fearful thoughts that the subconscious mind thinks keeps you safe. And so that's you gotta fight with it. As a hypnotist, I know that from times I've worked with clients and I found myself, you know, head to head with the subconscious mind, realizing this isn't going anywhere. Right? The subconscious mind has lots of empirical evidence as to why you should be afraid.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:The subconscious mind thinks it's very, very rational.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. And protecting you.
SPEAKER_03:All for your better, yeah, your betterment.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. And that might have worked as a kid, you know, depending on what you went through as a child. But uh as an adult, it's like, well, this isn't working so much for me anymore. And that's where, you know, parts work comes in. So I think should I jump into just asking one question by one?
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, I think we should. We've got a whole bunch of stuff here to talk about gratitude that might help us later. Um but let's follow our exercise and see where it leads us.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, so I'm gonna I think we'll do one question at a time and then Les and I will sort of give you our answers. If you want to write in the chat, if you if you want to, you don't have to share. But if you want to write in the chat your answer to the questions, then go ahead and do so. We'd love that. So the first question we asked yesterday was what is gratitude? I think it's different for all of us. Uh I think it has a a general theme. But yeah, what is gratitude? Do you want me to answer first? Sure. Excuse me. The gratitude gratitude is I feel the the feeling of love and appreciation for things around you, including yourself. Pretty straight to the point. Yeah. Feeling of love and appreciate. Did I say appreciation? No, I didn't, I don't think. The feeling of love and appreciation for things around you, including yourself.
SPEAKER_03:When I answered the question, I think that gratitude is an emotion. I think it's an emotion because I feel it. I don't just think it. I'm not just aware of it. And because it's an emotion, that means it's a response to how I'm interpreting my situation. Sorry if I'm being too analytical. But if if it's if it's an emotion, if it's something that I feel and I'm aware of as a feeling, then I use that tool and I say, well, this is a response to something that's going on in my life and the way I'm interpreting it. And if I if I take gratitude as an emotion and hang on to it, right, as Joe Spencer says, if I hang on to it, it could become a mood or an attitude, right? I think there's a great deal of potential there, it being an emotion. I think it's an awareness, right? And we'll talk more about the four A's. Uh, somebody wrote something called the four A's of gratitude, and I'm really impressed by it. Um, and we'll talk about it. But you know, it's an awareness, right? Of uh, I think it's an awareness of fortuity, it's an awareness of positivity, it's an awareness that things could be different, it's an awareness that things are pretty good. So, what do our friends think about this?
SPEAKER_01:Excuse me. I think it's more than thankfulness and it's integral to the core of me. It feels like joy and being at peace. And then also an emotion of deep appreciation, joyful peace. Yeah, that peace part and joy, like my gosh. Like last night, I felt like this overwhelming joy, but also this peace, warmth, and peace, and like I was bathing in like hot spring. But absolutely, you know, the those uh joy and peace and yeah.
SPEAKER_03:What when when we talk about that stuff, my mind always goes to this this this thought. The thought is that joy and love are your natural states, that's who you are, and because that's who you are, we think that. Oh, things got good. I feel gratitude. We start to think that that joy and that love is the thing, right? I think it's better to remember that joy and love as our natural state gets interfered with by the way we think, gets interfered with by the way we're interpreting our circumstance, gets interfered with by the subconscious mind trying to protect us, trying to make us afraid, trying to get us to be concerned. And so it's not that thinking about gratitude makes me happy.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:It's that my natural happiness comes out because thinking gratitude replaces thinking all these other things that I'm normally thinking that's interfering. So I guess my point is that it's more the removal of that which interferes with your joy and love than it is the thing creating joy and love.
SPEAKER_00:Yes.
SPEAKER_03:And and then that's that changes the way you think of what you're doing with your mind, right? If you think that things make you happy, you're out there trying to get things. If you think that things make you happy, you're out there trying to engage in things to make you happy. When really what they're doing is they're taking your mind off the things that make you unhappy, right?
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:And so now it's not a matter of going out to get something to make me happy. It's a matter of removing the stuff going on in my mind. It's a different action. And I think that there's value in being aware of that.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I mean the chat that was extra. When I move into a place of deep gratitude, I automatically well up with tears. It brings joyful tears. I feel overflowing with emotion. Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Tears are a fantastic. You know, I it's one of the first three frames I go through with my clients, especially when I'm working with men. You know, tears mean truth. I had heard that from uh a writer years and years ago, and I loved it, and it just seems to prove itself over and over. Tears mean truth. It means you're getting to something real, it means you're getting to something honest and you're aligning with yeah, the true power of love.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Now the the second question was what does it feel like? What does gratitude feel like?
SPEAKER_03:And where do you feel it in the body?
SPEAKER_01:And where do you feel it? Yeah. Yeah. Where do you feel gratitude in the body? For me, I I said, and I've said this a number of times now, feels like a warmth within the body. And I feel gratitude in my heart. My heart and my mind, I think. If you can actually feel something in your mind. Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, I think that's your greater self. Like you say, you feel it in your mind, you're feeling it in your greater theory.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, yeah, maybe that is it. That that's uh I think I'm gonna pay more attention to that next time. Yeah, but you know, what is that? Or is there a sense to that? Is there a feeling? It's almost like this expansive feeling over top of you, almost, you know, in the chat. For me, I feel it in my heart, but I think also my belly. Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:I think just to stick with that point of your greater ethereal self, my first reaction, of course, is that people are gonna say, What? Ethereal self? What are you talking about? Right? I think any exploration of the mind has to result in you being aware of the greater aspects of your of your being.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:And you know, I I I watch, you know, absolutely committed atheists engage in meditation practices, and they have to acknowledge. They say, well, you know what? I have to acknowledge there's more to me than this body, right? There's a greater sense of being and there's a greater meaning to that being. And it's not that I'm trying to bust anybody's beliefs. It's it's about me trying to point out that exploring your mind, which is your operating center, which is where everything gets interpreted and everything gets created, you'll find out that it's about understanding it better. It's an it's a mammoth tool that we have, this mind. And we've really been trained to use it badly. Anyway, back to that feeling.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Another in the chat is I I feel it in the core of my body. It fills me, rushes in light, a bright warm light that makes me feel light and love fulfilled. I feel bigger, like it expands me. Yeah, absolutely. Like kind of like uh your body is gonna explode or something, you know, it just feels like stretched out, but in a good way, you know, like just full of love.
SPEAKER_03:And if it had a color, my friends, if it had a color, what color would it be?
SPEAKER_01:My mind is racing through colors, almost like it said green at first, but then there was like purpley blue. We've got warm pink here in the chat. Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:There's an energy to it, that's for sure. Yeah, I'm like you guys. It feels calming to me. It's it makes me have that feeling of fulfillment, whatever that is. Yeah, um, that's the word I use, I guess. I feel it too in my heart area, in my center. And for me, it's uh sort of a bluey white.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. But another in the chat, not sure, but definitely warm.
SPEAKER_03:Warm, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. So an another question.
SPEAKER_03:Oh, it's good. So good. So we like it. We like it. We should we should have it more. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Yep. Allow yourself to remember when you spontaneously felt it last. Or not last maybe, but anytime. Allow yourself to remember when you spontaneously felt it. I think I've been feeling it a lot lately because of the, you know, like I wrote, I I speak to clients and they are talking about the connection they felt before reaching out. So just I guess to give a little bit of backstory, I was on an interview recently and it came out two weeks ago or a week. I don't even know now. But there's just been this tsunami of meetings with people. And I asked on the day that I knew it was coming out, I wrote in my book, my journal, please let you know, the people that I meet with be the people that, you know, the universe sends me for my highest good, and we're both for each other's highest good. And so far it seems to be working out that way. And they are all so beautiful in their own ways, and just stating to me, which is lovely, you know, I saw you on the interview, and there's something I I don't usually do this. I hear this a lot. I don't usually do this, but there was something about you that I felt okay to reach out. Yeah, which is beautiful. And I, you know, in those moments, I just feel like crying, you know, sometimes my eyes well up, like right now, a little bit. But yeah, I just feel like there's this deeper connection going on. And whether or not they choose to work with me after meeting me, I I I feel like we're both getting something from it, right? There's a meaning to it, there's a reason why they're reaching in. So yeah, I try to uh or I should say when I'm talking to them, I will oftentimes spontaneously just feel this gratitude, you know. Anyway, that's my little story.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, I find when it's spontaneous, it's there's a bit of a surprise element to it, a little bit of an unexpectedness. And I think that that's that contrast thing, right? That contrast of what was and what is. I think that gratitude is really based in contrast. You know, so I I I always try to remember that you know all of our perception ability is based in contrast. If you see total darkness or total light, you can't see at all, right? Can't see anything, right? When you have no light or too much light, you can't see it all because your your vision is based on contrasts. You know, when we're in uh we get really c accustomed to sounds, it's only when sounds change that we notice them. We use this thing called white noise to block out sounds, right? It is a sound is nothing but a difference in in vibrations hitting your ear, and you only notice the ones that are different from the ones you're used to. I mean, if you heard everything all the time, you'd probably go mad.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, right.
SPEAKER_03:Same thing with your skin and your feelings, right? It's contrasts, right? Like you don't walk around feeling your clothes, yeah, right, because your body gets used to that. So contrasts, I think, are the way we perceive. And yeah, I think that that's that's a good baseline. And if everything that I perceive is a contrast with what was and what is now, that's a great way to I think to to notice gratitude.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, yeah. So yeah, we're in nature when you're walking or with animals. Yeah, I I I feel that, you know. I I'm I'm sure I can speak for Les too, and he can speak on this, but when we're with Tyke, our dog, you know, just petting her, looking into her eyes, just being with her. Yeah, I just feel so much gratitude. And I try to, you know, I I speak to her, I'm sure many people do this with their animals, but I I think about so I'll I'll I'll preface this with I think about studies that when you speak to water lovingly, it changes the molecular structure into these beautiful structures. And so, you know, whenever I can, I'll just speak to her like so lovingly. You're so beautiful, you're so healthy, you're so wonderful, you know. And and I don't know, maybe it's making a difference, but uh you can almost feel it. You feel the love, right? We've also got over the past six to eight months, I've made a conscious effort to take a few moments each day and be in the moment to see where I am and be where I am. This always brings me into deep gratitude. I fill with love and deep appreciation and awe. I feel deeply blessed. And then also in the chat, nature, outdoors and our wilderness are deeply sacred places and always make me feel grateful. Absolutely.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, I think that yeah, what's come to me is it's really great to understand gratitude. You know, I'm talking to myself right now. It's really great to understand gratitude lessons, really good to analyze it and and see the pieces of it, but the most important thing is to feel it. The most important thing is to stay in it. Yeah, the most important thing is to not let it be fleeting, not let it be momentary, you know, the swim in it, you know, prolong it if you can, bask in it, find a way to stay in it for as long as you can. It changes, you know. This is the studies that Joe Dispenza does. Joe Dispenza, we'll talk more about that in a second, but he does studies and it he talks about the physiological differences it makes in people's bodies and in people's brains who put together, you know, he has a a simple uh methodology. He works, he does actual scientific studies on this stuff, where he gets groups of people, he gets controls, control groups and and test groups, and he puts them through routines of gratitude, specific gratitude-based meditations. And he he he measures all their base physiologic physiological characteristics and notes the changes, and the changes are dramatic. Yeah, he uses uh uh meditation methodology, it's hypnosis, yeah. I think he just doesn't like the word, but he uses a meditation methodology that's really based in quantum physics, the idea that uh mind affects the the physical world, and he he makes gratitude like the primary first thing everybody should be working on, which is just the what they do is just work on staying in it.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, yeah. Because it's so easy, especially if you're not guided to get uh to to have little thoughts come in and take you sideways, right? Yeah, I love that. Uh do you mind if you can remember it sharing the weight lifting? That's all I remember from it. Like it's almost like reading about oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Yes, yes. We'll we'll get let's finish your questions and then how to generate it at will.
SPEAKER_01:How do you gener how do you generate it at will?
SPEAKER_03:That's the thing, right? If it's so darn good for you, right? Like it's easy to spontaneously experience it. Something good happens. Yeah, yahoo, and you're feeling really good, and you've got that warm, you know, warm, colorful feeling inside you in that place where you feel gratitude. And then maybe, you know, maybe you're lucky and your subconscious mind is realizing it's good for you and they allow you to stay in it for a while. Yeah, and you do it, but then but then you have mornings like I had this morning where you wake up and you're concerned. And it's funny how sometimes my morning reset is just straight to all the things I'm worried about, all the things I'm concerned with, all the things I'm stressing. And and and then I want to get out of that, right? And gratitude is a fantastic methodology, it's a much preferable emotion, it's a much, it's almost the opposite of worry, right? So, how do you just get that right when you when you're feeling overwhelmed with fear and worry? How do you shift into gratitude? That's that's I think, you know, that's the mental technique that's gonna pay dividends.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I'll tell a little story before going into the chat. Back in uh I'll I'll hopefully never forget this. And I should really put into practice sometimes. Um again, but back in 2018, I sort of hit the ground, anxiety, depression, all the way down to the lowest lows. Unless you gave me a practice taking a Q card or a piece of paper. I think I used a cue card because that's what I had, but writing down everything I was grateful for. And it's amazing that little practice, how it could just lift you a little bit, right? Uh or a big bit. And I I did that a number of times, and it definitely helped. I also put everywhere all over my phone and computer and whatever I was looking at, you are enough. Just the mantra, the uh, you know, I am enough. And those things really help. So just being conscious of I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do this now, I'm gonna write it out, I'm gonna think it. I recommend writing it out because it gets all your senses engaged instead of just thinking it.
SPEAKER_03:Back to yesterday's journaling.
SPEAKER_01:Back to yesterday's journaling, yeah.
SPEAKER_03:It it provides that pinpoint precision to your attention. Yeah, it gets you, you know, by writing it, you can't, it's hard to be thinking something else while you're writing what you're grateful for.
SPEAKER_01:Exactly. And so, yeah, so that's just a little example. And so in the chat, we've got I practice it daily in meditation. I've started this week. I have started this this week. Wonderful. It's always, it's never too late, right? You start it anytime.
SPEAKER_03:Start right now.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, yeah. Another one I bring my mind and body into the present moment and think of people, things that I'm grateful for. If I'm struggling, I go for a walk along the shore or in the forest, and and being there will bring me into gratitude. Beautiful.
SPEAKER_03:That's beautiful. Yeah, that's isn't that just a smart thing to do, right? Like you gotta pat yourself on the back. You gotta say, you know, look what I'm doing for my mental health. Look what I'm doing for my physical health, because this affects your physical health too. Look what I'm doing in the way I approach my day. Because it just makes you a more open, more gentle, more kind and caring, compassionate person. Like it's just it has so many benefits and to be engaged in that in some kind of committed way. Yeah. Yeah, you deserve a big, big pat on the back for that and you know, encouragement to keep going. Yeah, for me, it's you know, you start you can start with memories. So you can have memories of gratitude, times when you were really, really grateful. That's that's a way to start generating that stuff, that what you guys talk about in terms of uh present inventory. And I think that, you know, if you're listening to this right now, you can start off yourself. You know, let's let's just, you know, the the let's let those of us are here right now feel free. People who are listening in in the chat, just go ahead and type in words of things that you're grateful for, and let's just say them out loud.
SPEAKER_01:Coffee, flower, warmth, coffee, tea. I've got I've I have a love for tea now.
SPEAKER_03:My bed, my dog, my view of the sun coming up, water, nice. What else is in the child?
SPEAKER_01:Uh we've got my home and kids and ocean view, my husband, my grandpuppy, my pets, forest.
SPEAKER_03:My slippers.
SPEAKER_01:My comfy pants. My eating pants when they get stretched.
SPEAKER_03:My notebooks.
SPEAKER_01:My clients, water, and food, birds. Beautiful place to live. Absolutely.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, and you can do this anytime you want.
SPEAKER_01:Nature.
SPEAKER_03:It really moves you from imagination fears and worries into imagination of appreciation.
SPEAKER_01:Yep.
SPEAKER_03:Again, that ability to control what you think, that ability to choose what you think, that ability to choose your imagination. Yeah, that's huge.
SPEAKER_01:My health came up, that's a big one.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah. And it's it's all implying that things could be different. You know, I I I like Like to think about what it must have been like to live in North America in the 1700s. Right? Like I I don't have to worry about hot water or heating the house, right? In the in the 1700s, the first thing you did in the morning was you got up and you chopped wood and you started a fire and you went out to the well and you got water and then you put it on the fire, right? And you had to do all of that to make a cup of coffee, right? And all we have to do is press a button.
SPEAKER_00:It's reminded me of my pioneer day of do you remember?
SPEAKER_01:So, like three years ago. Sorry, this I have to say this. It was so moving. I don't know, three years ago, four years ago, there was like a storm that basically took out Ontario. Like it it came across in these high, high winds, torrential rains, and it took out, it was like a lawnmower over Ontario. It was like in May or something. And I mean, the north, like roads were full of trees. It was nuts. So anyway, we lost power, and I get up in the morning and I'm like, oh, I'm gonna go make coffee on the fire outside. And so I'm out there boiling, trying to start a fire, boiling water in this like cast iron pot for coffee, trying my best to boil it. It's not really working very well. I'm like burning this, and then Les wakes up because I'm like I've started this at like I don't know, 6 a.m. or something. Les gets up at 7. I still haven't boiled water. And then he's like, you know, we can just turn on the propane stove in the house.
SPEAKER_00:And so yeah, it's just oh my god.
SPEAKER_03:So it's like that. Like now, you know, I get all pissy and frustrated when the coffee machine is low in water and I have to walk across the kitchen to the water cooler to fill up the water. Where in the old days it was like go outside with an axe to break the ice so that you can get the water. Yeah. Seriously. Yeah, like it's really easy to be grateful when you think about what could have been or what other people have gone through.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, right.
SPEAKER_03:You know, I wake up in the morning and the house is warm, yeah. And I can just push a button and have a coffee. You know, I got all these electronics that let me talk to people all over the world.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, right.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, yeah. There's lots to be grateful for.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, we're grateful for you guys joining in. We're grateful for listeners all around the world.
SPEAKER_03:So, yeah, so check out Joe Dispenza and his gratitude practice. You should do that. Um if you want to, you know, pursue this and get better at it and feel those joyful feelings more often. You can check that out. Uh like we like we do. Oh shoot, did I lose it? The uh the four A's of gratitude. Yeah, I just want to give them to everybody. This is a guy named Quint Boa, Q-U-I-N-T. Last name is B-O-A. So if I pronounced it right, great. If I didn't, I didn't. But he he takes the the idea and he breaks it down into the four A's of gratitude. And the first is attention and awareness, noticing good things, taking the time to notice again. This this is really the powerful stuff. It's about taking the time to know. Oh, now I can't find the thing I was taking the time, being present, being aware, uh, really just how good you've got it. The second day is acknowledgement. I like this. The acknowledgement is the idea that you're not alone. I'm appreciating and loving my cup of coffee, but somebody grew those coffee beans, somebody harvested them, somebody roasted them, somebody packaged them, somebody put them on the shelf so I could buy them. Yeah, you know, my gratitude for my cup of coffee is not just gratitude that I was smart enough to go buy it. Yeah, my gratitude is everything that went into it, including, you know, just uh the incredible power of nature in growing these things, right? So an acknowledgement that it's more than just me, appreciation, you know, taking the time to value this thing, feeling sort of that that deep sense of the way things are. And then action, you know, uh he talks about you know expressing your gratitude and expressing it to those you're grateful to and those you're grateful for. This idea of uh appreciation and action, he had a fun story. He said, you know, like people have a hard time, we all have a hard time sort of engaging in gratitude. It's something that is fleeting, it's something we don't spend time on, it's something that we could spend a lot of time on and it would improve our lives. And it isn't just to say, geez, I'm grateful for my cup of coffee, right? It's about these four A's, it's about really engaging it. You know, it's not saying I'm grateful for my cup of coffee, it's feeling the gratitude and expressing the gratitude to others. And he uses the analogy of, you know, thinking about what you're grateful for is kind of like thinking about exercise and thinking you're getting more fit. He says, he says it's you've got to spend time in it. You have to do it. The gratitude becomes a verb and it becomes something that you express and that you share. And in doing that, you change your own life, you change other people's lives, you send out that ripple effect. Anyway, that was the forays. So check out Quint Boa, check out the ideas of quantum physics. You know, the world is shaped by our mental attitudes. You know, this is modern science. So, what is the best mental attitude for you to engage to start shaping the world in your life? Yeah, check out Joe Dispenza and his practices, and and I am grateful for us doing this podcast and having people with us to do this podcast. Um I've I feel like you know, this started yesterday with you guys making suggestions of what we could do as topics and then engaging in this process with us of uh of just a series of questions to try to enlighten ourselves on this idea of gratitude, sharing your ideas that you know you just benefited people all over the world. So thank you for that. And thank you for being here. You make what we do have meaning.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, and I think this is important too, and remembering to express our this is in the chat, remembering to express our gratitude to ourselves as well. Self-love. Big, big, big yeah, yeah. Thank you. Thanks, guys. So the the exercise that Les just spoke about, that was the gym thing, just to answer. In the chat, they were like, what was the gym thing? So yeah, that was that was about the gym.
SPEAKER_03:It's more than thinking about gratitude, it's about acting on gratitude and engaging in gratitude. Yeah, just like thinking about exercise is not the process that will make you stronger every day.
SPEAKER_01:Yes, yep. So yeah, thank you for hanging out and have a wonderful weekend, and we'll see you Monday. Thank you, thank you. Beautiful.
