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Remove all boundaries, remove all limitations, and really just ask yourself deeply, truthfully, honestly, what is it that would make your day perfect?
SPEAKER_01:You just heard Barb, who used manifestation to change her life. Stick around to the end to hear more from her. So we're meeting here this morning to chat about manifestation, kicking off five days of learning to manifest, understanding what manifestation is and maybe why it works and the subconscious mind and how that's involved and how emotions are involved. So Les is here today. You've seen him in here every day. In the preschool, yeah, he's here every day. Exploding in the background.
SPEAKER_04:You manifested me.
SPEAKER_01:That's right. I did actually. So what do you think about manifestation? Do you think it's a load of hooey?
SPEAKER_04:You know what I think. The the technique that you developed last year, I think, it came through a series of different inspirations. But the primary one really is the idea that we are habitual in our thinking. And habitual in our emotional states. So I would start off by saying you're already manifesting. Just don't particularly like what you're manifesting.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I remember that now.
SPEAKER_04:And that's really a function of your mental and emotional state. And that's really normal and that's really human. It's a crazy world. It's hard to uh get up every day and look out at the world and think that it's a beautiful, wonderful place, that beautiful, wonderful things are happening everywhere, that you are beautiful and wonderful, and that only beautiful and wonderful things will happen to me today. That's a really hard thing to do. And as a result, most of us try to be realistic. I want to be realistic. I want to be anticipating truth. And uh what we're really doing, of course, then is uh manifesting below our potential and below our level of happiness. So I think the first thing to embrace is that you're already manifesting, that's how the world takes place, right? So it's not a question of how do I manifest, it's about well, what's going on in me that causes me to have the experience that I do, and how can I adjust that to change that experience? So that's what I the first thing I think about manifesting.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_04:And the second thing then comes from I'm a big fan of Joe Dispenza and people of his ilk. And they talk about, and you should talk about this, that they talk about studies that have taken place really dozens and dozens of times around the world about how and what people think on a daily basis.
SPEAKER_01:Like the 60,000 plus thoughts. Yeah. That kind of stuff. Yeah, I think I hope I don't get this wrong, but generally a human being will have 60,000 plus thoughts in a day. And when we go to change those thoughts, we're not looking to change 100% of them all at once. But to backtrack just a moment, 90%, 95%, 90% maybe, we thought have thought yesterday, right? So think about the thoughts you're having today. Chances are most of them you had yesterday as well. And so we and those thoughts are nice. Yeah, yeah, exactly.
SPEAKER_04:So the numbers vary by the study, but it's anywhere from 60 to 120,000 thoughts a day. Yeah, each these studies have been repeated and repeated, and although they the numbers vary, they're all pretty consistent, statistically consistent, and more importantly, they all point in the same direction. Yeah, which is we we have like this uncountable number of thoughts in a day, that most of them depends on the number, most of them we had yesterday, upwards of 90 to 92, 93 percent we had yesterday, and the day before, and the day before. And of those repeated thoughts, almost 90 are negative.
SPEAKER_01:Wow, yeah, generally, yeah.
SPEAKER_04:So that's what you're manifesting. Yeah, like so. Start there and just say, well, if this is what's going on in my mind, I can't really call that a positive state. Yeah, I can't really call that an emotionally happy state. Right, yeah, and that's going to be the thing that I'm using to create my day, even if even if you're not into the quantum and collapsing things from the field, and the idea of your ability to create through thought, you do obviously you can't argue with what I think is going to impact my behavior.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, it's it's funny, and and maybe I'm jumping ahead too far here, but just on that note, you know, working with clients over the last six years, it's so easy. And I start to see it. It's so easy to see how down thoughts, negative, let's say stuck thoughts, negative thoughts impact our life, right? And we want to change that. But everyone goes into woo-woo territory when we start to say, well, actually, positive thoughts can affect your life. Right? How does that work? It just blows my mind that we don't get that.
SPEAKER_04:Well, I think part of that is just because we're so well practiced at negative thoughts, and we've convinced ourselves that these negative thoughts are actually helpful. And this is, I think, the probably the first hurdle. The first hurdle we really need to overcome. Once we recognize that our thoughts are habits and that we're already manifesting, yeah, we have to realize that our negative thoughts or our anticipation of negative events, right? So that's the way I like to structure it. I I have an anticipation of a positive event and I call that excitement, right? And I have the anticipation of a negative event, and I call that worry.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_04:Now let's just embrace the idea that the future is truly an illusion, it doesn't exist, it's not there. In fact, it's the choices we make now, in this moment, that will affect what comes about in the next moment. So the present is we have complete control, and the future is just a dream. Now, that dream can be this is the way I always say it to my clients, a dream can be a nightmare, but a dream can also be um beautiful and glorious. Yeah, so which do you want?
SPEAKER_01:I want the beautiful, glorious nightmare. No, I'm just kidding.
SPEAKER_04:For a lot of people, they believe that by anticipating negatively they prepare themselves, yeah. And you I suppose you might prepare yourself because you're gonna create something negative, but you also by anticipating positively open the door to something else. Anyway, the whole thing's a dream, the future doesn't exist, it's your chance to create it. You can anticipate negatively, you can anticipate positively, and why the heck would you anticipate negatively? It doesn't actually help.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Do you think I I know I struggle with this sometimes? Do you think some people feel like they don't want to be seen as living in a in a you know a rainbow bubble of unicorns? Like they want to be serious, right? You gotta be serious to get through this life.
SPEAKER_04:Well, when when you add to the idea of worry, this self-consciousness that we all have.
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_04:Worried about what other people think about us. Powered by a desire since we were little, little kids, and we were programmed right to try to be doing the right thing.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_04:Whatever the heck that means. And whatever the right thing is, we probably receive that as a limiting belief from people who love us.
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_04:Our parents are gonna tell us, you know, you can't live in an airy, fairy world. Our parents are gonna tell us you need to be prepared. Yeah, our parents are gonna tell us you need to anticipate the awful things that are out there in the world. And they're doing that in a desire to protect us. Like we can't, yeah, we can't project a negative intent on their part. It's a positive intent. But it comes back to since the time we were little, we are trying to do the right thing, and the right thing is to be ready for something to go wrong, and that's a deep program in all of us, and in some of us, particularly problematically.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I just want to take a quick moment to shout out to Barb. She's joined us on our podcast this morning. Welcome, Barb.
SPEAKER_04:We love it when people show up.
SPEAKER_01:Yes. We're just getting this part, this podcast going. We're this is going to be available on our main podcast, Coffee with Hillary and Les, that you can find out there in the podcast verse. Apple and Spotify. So go check that out. There's over a hundred bite-sized podcasts to listen to from our business. Talking about the mind and how helpful we can be with it and using techniques to help us feel better.
SPEAKER_04:That's the idea. Flipping the screen.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, exactly.
unknown:Exactly.
SPEAKER_04:So last year I was listening to a recording of Joe Dispenza, because I just think he's uh brilliant and uh he he distills everything really well. He's a good teacher. Anyway, he was just talking about how you can't expect a different life from the same thoughts, which is really what we're getting at. You can't be in the habit of thinking certain things and expecting your life to suddenly be different. It's really sort of a belief in magic to say that I can be negative, feel negative, think negative, anticipate negative, but good things are gonna happen to me. On the quantum level, we create from our vibrational thinking, but on the physical level, our actions will be determined by the way we are interpreting the situations in front of us. And if we have the habit of interpreting the situation as an attack, a problem, an uh issue to be avoided, then that's the kind of thing we're our behavior is going to reflect. Our behavior is going to engage that. We're gonna say no to opportunities, we're gonna be fearful of things that we don't understand. We're going to be reserved and resistant to change because change is risky. These are the things that actually lead to a positive experience.
SPEAKER_01:The taking taking advantage of opportunities you're saying, uh, yeah, leads to positive experience. And I think you know, to talk about the subconscious mind, we've been talking about the subconscious mind for forever and a day now, together over the last I don't know, when did we start down the subconscious mind route? When you started your hypnosis training, and even before that. But when we imagine, we use visualization, we use senses, just pretending in our mind whether that's feeling, you know, it doesn't have to be a theater experience, right, for it to work. But bringing all the senses and emotions into action really help to at a neurological level in the in the mind, in the brain, let's say, develop those pathways and deepen those pathways to have your mind accept that wow, you know what? Like maybe this is plausible. Maybe, maybe this reality is something that I can get behind. And then you're more open, I think, to the opportunities when they present themselves.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, you you really enter your life in a more soft and open way without all the negative anticipation. You know, what I'd say is the next sort of reframe is embrace the idea that imagination is not just for kids, right? Yeah. Imagination is for everybody. You know, imagination is cultivated in children. We we don't need to cultivate it much because they're just inherently creative. Everybody is. They're inherently desiring to be creative, to live in a world in their mind. You know, my opinion is that they're still more closely identifying with their previous spiritual self than they are with their adult human self. They still have a lot of the tendencies that a spirit might have as they enter a body and begin a life before it's all been sort of trained out of them. That's to me a big part of it. But as an adult, you know, you look at a little kid, and a little kid will be lost in imagination, talking to themselves and playing with their toys or out in the yard, spinning around, and you know they're somewhere in their head and somewhere lost in their imagination. And it's a beautiful thing. We look at that and we think of it as a beautiful thing, and then we think that an adult that might do that is crazy again. The programming that we receive as as we grow up is not always helpful, and so you know, to just dive into imagination just for the fun of it once in a while is an incredibly uplifting thing. Yeah, that alone will have a huge, powerful effect on your mood. It will start to change these habitual thoughts, it will open the door to a willingness to consider that life could just be one joy after another instead of one thing after another. The way we really live our lives. Anyway, so you know it doesn't matter if you're coming at this from a science point of view, from a spiritual point of view, from a beingness point of view. What matters is imagination is for everybody.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_04:It's one of those wonderful things we can do with our mind. And taking some time to do that changes those habitual thoughts.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I think the one of the things I notice when I work with people on this type of thing is they get they get excited about the potential, about wanting something new in their life. But then they get ahead of the thought and say to themselves, well, you know, like I haven't seen anything that has made me ever believe that that's a possibility. So I'm not sure it is a possibility, right? And then of course we deep deep dive into limiting beliefs and release some stuff. But what would you say to people going through that? How can it be something that is plausible to them that they don't get ahead of and and squash?
SPEAKER_04:Well, I think it's really easy to find evidence of the negative aspects of the world. It's easy because it's constantly being presented to us. We think being a well-informed person means knowing all the horrible things that are going on on the planet. And that's really not well-informed, that's really just negative orientation. To step back and say, Well, my orientation wanted to be positive. We could just as easily find a limitless list of reasons to be positive in our orientation. You know, the sun is shining in my face right now, and it's beautiful, and it's sparkling on the water, and that's beautiful. And you're beautiful, and here looking at the world, I can spot, you know, like here it is the fall, and there's still little blooms on those geraniums outside, and there's still birds flying to our feeder. You know, I can overwhelm myself with positive uh observations that create positive mood, the mist moving across the water, doggy sleeping and chewing her bone. And you know, there's just so many things going on around me that are so easy to interpret as positive. And that's just a different orientation. That's just an orientation towards gratitude, an orientation towards things being really lovely.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. It's funny how we and I think, you know, obviously it's biologically ingrained in us to look for the fear, right? Oh, there's a lion behind that bush, right? And when we think about the sunshine and the coffee and the unless we really take that present moment and and notice it, oftentimes, because it's so normal, we don't even realize it and we don't notice it. We see this with clients all the time, right? They're their life changes for the better, and then they can't see it because it's back to normal normal, in quotes, right?
SPEAKER_04:So yeah, it's just fascinating how how that you know, bringing those thought patterns is hard work because it's important to realize that you're always thinking, and those thoughts are habitual, and the only way they're gonna change is to grab them and insert new ones, and in that process, your mind is gonna say, wait a second, we like our habits, and I suppose, like to get back to the to where we're going with this, um, we can talk about these kinds of things a lot, and I think it's enough to recognize that they exist, it's enough to recognize that you are not your thoughts, I'm the thinker, I can change what I think, I can choose what I think, I can actually choose to not think about the negative, and I can choose to think about the positive, and I can accept that all the negative thoughts in the world aren't going to um make my experience of a negative event any better. But positive thoughts and a positive state might make the receiving of a negative event a whole lot better. Like this is just logic. This is not this this is fighting against years and years and years of resistance, years and years and years of programming. We're all very much programmed, and we have a natural resistance to these kinds of suggestions, and you know, you know, I've been dismissed as a bliss ninie before, you know, and I say, well, I'd rather be that than a negative Nelly, right? Like, like, why would I want to spend my time being obsessed and negative? But as Joe Dispenses says, you know, a negative emotion embraced and held on to can become a mood. And a mood, a negative mood held on to and embraced can become an attitude. And an attitude, a negative attitude held on to and embraced becomes a personality. And if you find yourself in situations where, you know, people don't particularly like being around you, right? Or you don't like being around particular people, you could see how that comes about, how that negative outlook can come about. And first of all, if it's somebody else, I just gotta forgive them because that's their programming, and you gotta look at them and say, hey, you know, they they just haven't had the opportunity to think differently. And if you see it in yourself, then you come back to I am the thinker, I'm not my thoughts, I can change what I think. And then, well, what do I think? Yeah, how should I think? Well, what we developed, the purpose behind all of this, was to break that thinking pattern. You know, Joe Spencer says, if you wake up in the morning and you're embracing the thoughts you had yesterday, which were all negative, then you can't really reasonably expect today to be any different. Yeah, it's just not gonna happen. So, how do you deliberately then embrace positive thoughts? And so what we thought was let's let's develop a questionnaire where people will be forced to sit and think about what a perfect day would look and feel like. And that's the hard part of this. The hard part of this exercise, the hard part of this opportunity is to take the time, set aside the time, let the imagination flow, don't put restrictions on it, and just imagine what would a perfect day be like. And these questions that we have in our questionnaire just guide you through that process. But I really encourage you two things. First, set aside at least an hour for this and enjoy it like a little kid, pretending in the yard that they're dancing in the flowers, and that the world loves them, right? So take the time to do that. And the second thing is really think big and think detailed, make this huge, make this the perfect life, and think about the details, right? The tiny little details, the little things in life that really make you happy. You know, for me, the sunshine in my eye is one of those things. I sit in this chair every day and the sun blinds me, and I love it, right? And I know for Hillary, I'll just use the word and let her go.
unknown:Coffee.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I get excited for my coffee when I go to bed. So, yeah.
SPEAKER_04:It's the little things in life that matter. So you do this this exercise of filling out a questionnaire, and then we turn it into a meditation. Yeah, we've already sort of programmed our AI. I've made AI make a lot of these, and I've given it lots of feedback. And AI can tell a really beautiful story, and if the details come from you and the settings come from you, and the important events come from you, AI has an amazing way of telling it back to you in a way that your mind is open to. Because these are words. As hypnotists, what we do all the time is write down what the client says. And we write it down because they've already given us the words that they need to hear. They don't want my words, they don't want suggestions coming in my language, my terminology, my lexicon. They want suggestions coming to them from their language because that's already what their subconscious mind is open to. They've already told you that, giving me the secret, right? That their subconscious mind is open to these words. And AI, we programmed AI to figure that out, to understand, to give those words back. Anyway, so we take that and we create a 15-minute, 10 to 15-minute meditation. We put a little intro on it to try to address some limiting beliefs that might get in the way of the experience. And then we put it in a recording with some wonderful music. We'll even put some binaural beats on it to get you right into the theta state quickly. And then you listen to it twice a day for six weeks, and it'll change your life.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Yeah. I want to make sure people understand that it's not AI. Our voices aren't AI.
SPEAKER_04:No, no. In fact, when it comes to the voice recording, you get to choose between Hillary's golden tones and my uh deep vibrato, and and you get to choose whatever one feels that you would be most open to.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_04:The one that you would like to hear. And in fact, you know, this exercise, you could try it, and if you like it, you know, we can send you the script and you can record it for yourself.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_04:That's my experience because I record my own and then I listen to my own voice. And sometimes I really, really like it, and sometimes it pisses me off. But the point is, is that it's a voice that I'm open to.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I remember it brings me back, I totally forgot about this actually, is years ago after I took hypnofit training. Part of the training is there's homework in in around the sixth or seventh session. And you're supposed to write out the client writes out their perfect day, and then they come to me, and then I read it back to them, right? And that I always I remember it was everybody's favorite because they could just go into storybook land, right? It was like reading to a child, you know, storybook at night. Yeah.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah, imagination isn't just for kids. And spending time in your imagination positively will evoke positive emotions. And so if you if you come to the table with the fundamentals of manifestation, law of attraction, approach theory, then the thought is the request, and the emotion is the magnet that draws it to you. And when you allow yourself to feel these, and it's not just, and this is this is part of the the power of this. It's not just listening to somebody tell you about your perfect day, it's about diving into it and allowing yourself to imagine it and experience it and feeling it. And this is when I teach self-hypnosis, uh one of the things I teach is it's not just the words, it's not just repeating the words, it's feeling the words. What is the feeling of the words? What is the feeling of these ideas? And that's the magnet that will draw it to you. On a practical level, what it does is it puts into your your wiring of your mind thoughts that are new, thoughts that are different, thoughts that can be repeated. That which is repeated gets wired in. It puts those thoughts into your mind and then creates a predisposition. And the predisposition would be to recognize um elements that you want to encourage and support and get behind and repeat when they actually happen in your real life. Yeah, it will it will create a A different response to these things. In many respects, manifestation is simply about being clear about what you want, being clear about how it will feel, and responding quickly, without resistance, to the impulses that come your way as you're living your life. Those instincts, those impulses, those intuitive little events, those are the invitations to make it happen. It's not that you're passive. It's not that you're waiting for something to happen to you. It's that you change your approach. First by anticipating positively, second by having positive emotion. Third by wiring your brain to recognize positive opportunity and opening yourself up to responding to it.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_04:And that's gonna be the secret to manifestation. Now, if you have a hard time feeling it, I heard this said and I loved it. Everything you want represents a feeling inside you that you want. So the easy ones, everybody wants a million dollars, right? So what would it feel like to have a million dollars? The reason you want it is because of how it would feel for you.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, and I would take it a maybe a step further and say, okay, well, what does that feel like? Maybe imagine yourselves yourselves in situations that have happened because you have a million dollars. You know, I'll just use the out there imaginative experience, but imagine you have the ability now to go to a beautiful beach or something like that. Well, what does that feel like to walk along the sand? You know, is it soft sand? Is it grainy sand? Are there rocks? Are there are there beautiful shells? How's the water coming in? Is it warm there? What does that feel like? That is that's you know, I I would say that's maybe uh a next step if somebody can't get into the feeling of, well, what does a million dollars feel like?
SPEAKER_04:Well, there's there's there's you you're you you're talking about something really, really important. A lot of us confuse what we want with how we get it. So let's say what I want is to get up leisurely in the day and not be filled with the kind of negative anticipation and fear that I don't have enough money. And I want to feel like I have enough money, and that might actually, you know, come to life by me having a trip to a beach, and it's not so much the feeling of the sand under my feet that I want, it's that carefree feeling of I am free to experience this beach. These are the emotions to go after, right? It's not the emotion of somebody handing you a million-dollar check, that's the means to the emotions that you're really seeking. Okay, so a lot of us we've we get trapped in this is what I want. I want that job, or I want that person in my life, or I want that amount of money in my bank account. But what they represent are states of being, and to try to replicate that inside you. And that's what this exercise tries to do. It tries to give you those kinds of personal rewards that come from living your perfect day, living your perfect life.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. And I think on a final note before we go here, I think it's uh it's important to release the outcome. Releasing, I heard from actually Barb yesterday, the releasing of boundaries, the releasing of the constraints that we often put on, well, this is how this is gonna happen, right? Be totally open to how things might happen. Right.
SPEAKER_04:There's a nice prayer. There's a nice prayer from the day. Universe, creator, source, mother, father, god, whatever word connects you to all that is. The prayer is make me wildly open to receive. But if you want one of those recordings, just reach out.
SPEAKER_01:It's actually in the classrooms right now. It's there. We can create that for you. But thank you, Barb, for hanging out with us. If you want, you can unmic yourself.
SPEAKER_00:Wow. I'm on the line. Yeah, I my life is is my perfect day. It is my perfect day. And it's a tremendously powerful, powerful thing. If you can truly, as Les says, take the time, do the questionnaire, deeply do the questionnaire, remove all boundaries, remove all limitations, and really just ask yourself deeply, truthfully, honestly, what is it that would make your day perfect? It you know, let's, I'm not saying that a yacht isn't on your list, but let's not get into all the the yachts and the million dollars. I want you to ask yourself what would actually make you joyful each day, what would actually bring full heart, full love in your day. Yeah, just it's it's gotta be heartfelt. Truly, deeply heartfelt what you where you think your place of joy is. And uh, and I'm in my place of joy. I'm I'm deeply in my place of joy. And for anybody who knows my life, you know how this is just beyond anything I could have ever imagined. And and there were no limits and no boundaries, and no one would ever have thought it possible, but I am here.
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:All the way, I I I hope you don't mind me saying this, but uh, all the way down to the cushions and blankets. I love it.
SPEAKER_00:All the way down. My meditation that Les recorded for me talked about me being in a room filled with quilts and pillows. That's where I feel comfy and cozy. And if you could see a picture of my bedroom right now, you would see that the bedroom I'm in is filled with quilts and pillows, and that I wake up each day under a plush duvet, and I do. So, yeah, it's take the time. The questionnaire is truly the key. It really is the key. And if you can really deeply delve into that, I think that you will be absolutely amazed at what lesson Hillary can create for you, and then more importantly, what you actually create for yourself.
SPEAKER_01:Thank you.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, thank you.
SPEAKER_01:So we're gonna let everybody go. All right. We'll see you later.
